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Wednesday, June 29, 2011

Your Man Was Raped!

Where I live, I see young men that are obviously gay. Everyone wants to know why so many young males are gay these days.

Last year, Oprah had Tyler Perry on her show and he revealed that he had been molested by 4 different people(three men and a woman) when he was a little boy. Oprah did a follow-up show with 200 men who had also been molested as young boys.  Because of society's homophobia, many men feel isolated and never seek help. 

In Western society, man are raised to deny and mask their emotions.  Man-up! This is a common command toward men who appear to be "too sensitive."  When men can't be real about what is going on with them, this can be an open door to anger issues.  Men who act out their abuse through anger typically end up in the criminal justice system.  Other ways men mask what happened to them is to deny it and try to medicate through drugs and alcohol.  Some will end up having to obtain psychiatric help as a result. Worst case scenario is suicide.

We constantly are bombarded these days with stories about young women that were molested as children, but so have young boys. Those boys grow into men. They keep it a secret--then get into relationships. His behavior is strange, but typically, a woman will just assess that he's having a bad day. Well, those bad days grow into weeks, then other things begin to manifest in the relationship.

Your man was raped as a child. And now you're pregnant with his child.

How do you confront something as this. You know you love him, but can you get past this dirty little secret?

(Open discussion encouraged)

Wednesday, June 22, 2011

10 Ways To Build A Strong Family...

Family is the foundation of society. Family is our rock. In the world today, we are constantly bombarded with images that promote everything except what builds strong families. I thought I'd take some time today
and create a list of 10 ways to build a stronger family:

1. Put God first in your family and home. God created family as the first instituion. We should always honor it.
2. Give Support. Don't wait to be asked for help--GIVE IT willingly. Lend a helping hand with a smile. Encourage those who are down.
3. Be Kind. Do you smile when you see your loved ones? What do they see in your eyes? How do they feel after you leave?
4. Be Truthful with one another. Trust is a necessary component of ALL relationships.
5. Show solidarity. ALL for one--and one for ALL.
6. Do unto your family as you would have them do unto you. Service begins in the home.
7. Practice family cooperation. Build a CORPORATION. Invest in each other and build wealth together.
8. RESPECT YOUR FAMILY! No disrespect should be tolerated from within or outside the family.
9.  Keep in touch. Never use distance as an excuse for not communication.
10. Be Available. Stop being so busy and give your family your undivided attention.

No family is perfect, but when you practice these things consistently, you;ll soon discover how much joy will come into your lives.


Saturday, June 18, 2011

What Happened To Good Music?

Motown Changed the game back in the sixties.  The roster of artists on that label set the record industry on fire.  Than, through the seventies, great artists and songs really gave that decade a virtual soundtrack.  I still listen to seventies music.  The eighties birthed Hip Hop, Madonna and Michael Jackson Thrilled us into the history books.  The nineties kept it rolling with the great young R & B groups, rappers began to become more mainstream and we saw the emergence of Gangsta Rap--giving us groups and artists like NWA, Public Enemy, Paris, Snoop Dogg, Tupac, Ice Cube, Bone Thugs-N-Harmony, The Wu Tang Klan, The Notorious BIG, et al.  From the beginning of the decade to the last nano second of 1999; the nineties thrilled us well.  But the last ten years just have not been very impressive.

There was a time when I would literally toss and turn in anticipation of getting to either Sam Goody, Camelot Music, Tower Records, Coconuts, etc. From R & B to Pop, I had picks. My musical taste is wide.

But those days are long gone.

I moved to Georgia in 2004 and I've only bought about 15 new Cd's within that time frame. Just 15. Honey, I used to buy that many Cd's in one trip to the record store back in the day. In a year, don't even ask. I spent a lot of money...and don't even get me started on stereos, boom boxes, Cd players et al. The Record industry was making a lot of money from folks like me.

However, today, nothing that I hear on the radio these days even get a ripple of excitement out of me. With exception to R. Kelly's Love Letter, J Moss--Just James and the new goal of purchasing Ledisi's new album; I'm really not going to buy too much music.

It's sad...but the glory days of New Music Tuesday are a thing of the past.

Napster changed the game forever. People simply got tired of spending over $20 for music, but only to be disappointed for the lack of good songs on it.

If it continues like this; music stars will be a thing of the past.

Wednesday, June 15, 2011

Why Are Women So Quick to Live With Men That Never Marry Them?

Every time I meet someone, they are always surprised that I live by myself. Why wouldn't I? I just don't believe in co-habitation and my mother always told me that once a man lives with you; he'll never marry you.

Women want to debate that marriage doesn't mean anything and it's just a piece of paper. Well, that piece of paper is a contract. Meaning...a marriage is bound to its terms; enforceable by law. The Bible refers to a man and wife as "of one flesh", wives are "entitled." You are his next of kin and anything that he owns and vice versa, is transferred. Girlfriends only get screwed and disposed of.

Do what you do, but you get what you settle for in life.

I just don't understand women these days who barely even know a man. OK, you go out on a few dates, hang out and develop affection for one another, but now, six months later, you think it's ok to live together?

Women who settle for this, in my opinion, regardless of the lip service they give; simply don't value themselves, and opt for a piece of a relationship rather than being "honored" by a man and asked to be his wife. He's giving you his name and promising to be committed to you for life--if the marriage lasts. Marriage is what you make it. Both have to contribute fully.

Relationships are treated like Kleenex these days. Just use and toss.

Family is sacred and the foundation of society and all one has to do is just look at the current state of our nation.

Every father wants to walk his daughter down the aisle and properly transfer his greatest love to the man whom he approves and trusts to treat his daughter as he has raised her. A good father teaches his daughter how a man is supposed to treat a woman. Charity begins at home and if a woman wants to be considered a treasure; she must first realize that she is a "gift" to her husband.

Why Should You Consider An Amazon Kindle?

The gadgets that are available today seem to be endless.  I'm an avid ready and I've been contemplating buying Amazon's new Kindle.  Why Should I or anyone consider buying one.  Well, for starters, you can download up to 90,000 titles, listen to books, download newspapers, magazines, current events or blogs wherever we may be, it's lightweight and can be carried in our tote bag, purse or briefcase.  And it's great to travel with.  Who wants to slug a bunch of books around?  It's just more weight to carry. 

Some would say, "Why should I pay $399 for one?  How much would you pay for all the books you read?  Not too mention, buying a lot of books takes up space, so you'd have to invest in a bookcase. 

The Kindle is a great invention and since education is an ongoing process; investing in one can be very beneficial.

Whether we like it or not, technology is changing how we live.

I say...Go buy one.

Here's the link:

Sunday, June 12, 2011

Knowledge is power and information is critical.  Consider the source. This has always been a rule when receiving information. Anyone who can control your mind and the way you think, can CONTROL YOU.

However, as relates to Black people in the United States, negative information is not ever questioned by those who report the news, but those impacted by bias reporting and statistical information are damaged in ways that can not be understood in the mainstream.

Crime is universal, however, here in America, the image of the Black male is typically that of a criminal, suspect, drug addict/dealer or violent individual. However, when you put a lens of the recent activity of violent crimes, white males go under the radar. Reporting the truth seems to be subjective as relates to many forms of media.

Statistics are one of the most overused methods of understanding a group. White people love to preface their statements about Blacks with statistics, but anyone who has taken statistical theory can tell you that numbers can do not tell the WHOLE TRUTH and can reflect bias. Did you know that fake news is often reported with a particular agenda? Link: Fake News in the United States and how it being used against African Americans. - Assata Shakur Speaks - Hands Off Assata - Let's Get Free - Revolutionary - Pan-Africanism - Black On Purpose - Liberation - Forum

Racism is the culprit of much of the information reported about Blacks, but the government controls the media and uses misinformation in order to dictate social policy.

Why is negative information always being directed at the Black community? It is deliberate psychological conditioning to make blacks think they are a powerless group through deplorable imagery with the agenda of brainwashing the community into thinking they are powerless to change their condition and must accept white dominance.

This is not a joke.

One of the biggest fears of the White power structure is for Black people to become a cohesive force politically as well as culturally.

I'd say, given the nature of behavior exhibited by some African Americans, it would appear that those who do not commit themselves to educating themselves about what is really going on, can't understand why their lives are not fulfilled. They have been influenced by the media and are made powerless because of it.

The Bible says: For the lack of knowledge, my people suffer.

A truth many don't empower themselves against.

Wednesday, June 1, 2011

Oprah's OWN Network is Too White!

Today, I prepared for yet another scorcher.  It's going to be around 94 degrees today.  I left the house this morning at 6:39 AM.  It was already humid before 8:30 AM.  

Had a lot on my mind.  I spoke to some of my friends and family on Facebook, then I went to my blog.  The traffic is growing, and I'm attracting some interesting folks.  Had a message from someone claiming to be an FBI agent(ok...)and then I spent time answering some of the guests that have commented on some of my blog entries.

I'm not the type to back down from my opinions and generally, I speak my mind without apology. 

There's been a lot of discussion about Oprah's OWN network.  Everyone has been complaining about the lack of diversity on Oprah's OWN network, but what suggestions would people like to give to her as to the type of programming they'd like to see?

 I do feel that her show is too white and I took the liberty of sending her an e-mail stating so:

Dear Ms. Winfrey,

I don't know you personally, but I watched The Oprah Winfrey Show from the very beginning to the last show.  Also, I was blessed to be part of a live audience taping twice over the years.  
However, the reason I'm writing this e-mail to you is just to speak candidly about your OWN network.  I have a question: What type of shows are you planning for OWN?

Many African Americans have been complaining that your network lacks culture and diversity and why aren't you promoting more African American talent?  Why? This article highlighted this very question:

As an African American woman, I'd like to see programming that reflects my community--and not through the editing of white producers.  There is simply no excuse as to why African Americans are being "Blacked out" by the media--treating us as if we don't matter.  There are so many young Black men and women making accomplishments, but we never hear about them.

If you want your network to succeed, I highly suggest that you begin to reexamine your standards.

Frankly, I'm getting sick and tired of prominent Black people acting as if there is something wrong with showing White America that being Black is not a deficit--it's an honor.


That's my ten cents.  I anticipate her response.

As for Black America, many are not happy.  I'm tired of people complaining all the time. Be bold and speak your mind to her.  Nothing changes until folks make it happen.

Her email address is . She says she will respond to messages when she can. 

Well... SPEAK UP NOW or forever hold your peace.

I Welcome The FBI on My Blog!

Today, while editing the comments to the blog, I got an anonymous message from an FBI agent.  I read it...and responded.

Apparently, my blog has gotten some attention from White Supremacists and other racists that like to hide behind the computer.

The utter irony that I'm listening to an old dance groove by House music legends, Ten City called "Suspicion."

As an African American, I really am not at all inclined to attract attention from Law Enforcement, but honestly, in the information age; one can't get spooked by the presence of those who are hired to protect and monitor all suspicious activity.

My blog is not a platform of hatred.  It is not one with its creator impassioned by some crazed agenda.  It is not a manifesto.  No.  It is just an open journal of everything I think about on any given day--and if you read it--you do so by choice.  It is honest.  No apologies will be given.  However, if you can handle the truth--The Uppity Sistah gives it out by the pound.

Back to my main point: I have nothing to hide.  And I welcome the FBI to come visit the blog.  Hell, it would be just peachy if The Uppity Sistah can assist our Law Enforcement Brethren in some way.  I hate bad people.

One thing is for sure, I'll never tell a lie.  And who knows...they might just be amused, entertained as well as informed about what real folks actually talk about.