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Wednesday, August 25, 2010

****Welcome! The Pink Lounge Is Now Open****


If you've found your way over to the Uppity Sistah today, you've now entered the Pink Lounge.  At the Pink Lounge, problems are left outside and the only thing allowed inside is pure bliss.  Whatever makes you happy...sports, fashion, music, art, posting pictures or good's all good.
So sit back...relax and just hang out...
*Posting is allowed*

Sunday, August 15, 2010

My Book Is Done!!! *Smile*

Yeeeeaaaaaeeeaaaahhhhh !!!!! THE BOOK IS DONE !

Thank You, Lord!

Everybody...I just want to extend a great big THANK YOU to those here who encouraged me to write a book. I've been contributing to various online sites for over ten years and for years, people asked me if I was a writer...or encouraged me to write.

Back in 2003, life brought about some changes and it was at this time that I decided to take a giant leap of faith and write a book. As early as 1999, I had been saving some of the topics I started and I realized that put together, I really could write an inspirational book. One of those topics, originally entitled, A Love Letter to My Black Man dingos was selected as the catalyst for the book. I changed the titled, first, to A Love Letter to Black Men, then that changed with the advice of a member on another site, to A Journey Into The Mind of A Black Woman: In Search of Black Men With Purpose. The book is truly a journey of discussions and conversations written in verisimilitude, regarding topics impacting the Black community. I chose Black men as the protagonist because they are so absolutely necessary. It is my cri de coeur(cry of the heart) for
Black People to embrace our past and detach ourselves from white America because it has made us all sick.

Some things and people are like toxic waste and if you get too close you will become contaminated.

Self-hatred is rampant in the hearts and minds of Black people and some don't realize just how sick they are.
We still live in a system created by slavery and we are still defined by that system. Black male children are targeted for destruction and it is urgent for us to recover our memory, restore our culture and achievements in history, and stop defining ourselves through the distorted lenses of white supremacy. It has damaged our psyche—we’re co-conspirators—we comply with its terms: forget about our culture and heritage, forget about being Black, don’t attack or confront the white mainstream, and then white people would accept us.

Why then are Black people around the world bleaching their skin, straightening their hair, getting plastic surgery to alter their Negro features and assuming the mannerisms and behaviors of white folks in order to be accepted?

How can you define yourself if you don't see yourself in a positive light?

We need to purge ourselves Black people and that is why I wrote this book.

I'd like to share it with you all.

Currently, I'm seeking a literary agent.

Your prayers are welcome.

I can't predict the outcome, but I accomplished what I set out to do. And that makes me happy.

It's been a pleasure....

Wednesday, August 4, 2010

Black Men Don't Marry White Women For Love...

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In order to understand something, it sometimes is necessary to understand the root of the condition.

How can you see yourself in the eyes of your enemy? Interracial unions are nothing new, but as relates to the history of America, the attraction is not based on love, but one of curiosity brought on through the proximity of slavery. In those times, the white man lusted for the Black woman, and because of his power over her body, being a slave, he could have sex with her at his will. However, the white woman was off limits to the Black male slave. It was dangerous for any Black man to even think of touching a white woman. The contrasts of how Black women and white women were viewed is very telling. The Black woman wore rags. but the white woman wore beautiful gowns. She was made up and her hair was coiffured. The Black male slave could see how well kept the white woman was; secretly, some Black males slaves may have desired her. Thus, the Great Myth of the White Woman being the most desired woman was born.

The images and editorials of the times esteemed white women. Black women were debased, so from the start; the true difference in how Black woman and white women were viewed, basically related to marketing.

Add to this the reiteration of imagery through time, the myth is perpetuated in the psyches of those who are the oppressed group. They too begin to believe the white man's lie.

Black men were lynched for even just looking at a white woman. No punishment came to men who violated the Black woman. One woman was valued the other was easily disgarded.

But, as Black people began to advance and take more control of their image, Black Beauty was recognized and embraced.

Ebony Magazine, Jet, Essence, to name a few, showed the beauty, talent and achievements of Black men and woman and many thought this would right the wrongs of the past, but true to the light; we are still a bruised people psychologically, and some of us began to embrace the attitudes of our enemy.

Why did Black men begin to desire white women in the last 30 years?

Today, interracial couples are increasing every single year. Some say this is progress but Black woman aren't echoing this sentiment. They see white women as "trouble" and because of her, many Black men have been brought to ruin. Just look at current headlines of late.

Many powerful Black men, particularly entertainers and athletes seem to be targeted by white women. Why? Some Black women have said that these women have been raised well by racist fathers who educated them well on how to seduce the minds of the weak. They know that when it comes to wealthy Black men, and those who have advanced; they have an advantage as relates to the well known fettish of Black men of desiring less Negro looking women or a blond over an average Black woman. Basically, they know that a fool and his money will always part. The seduction begins from the moment a Black man knows that his money allows him options. And their behavior exposes the deeper truth of just how well many have bought into White Supremacy.

And the greatest lie: That Black men really do fall in love with white women. I've never met one in my life who even would state this. What I have encountered are Black men, when asked why they chose a white woman; they preface their statement with a cause--not true love as to their union. A Black woman hurt them. Black women are too bossy. Black women aren't supportive , et al.- - we are the center of their choice. It's as if they are saying subconsciously that " the only reason I'm with a white woman is because the Black woman I wanted wouldn't act right ."

Given the high divorce rate of interracial couples, I think it's a fair assumption that many Black men get involved with white women for various reasons, but true love is not one of them much of the time.

As Louis Farrakhan asked: Is it love or is it lust that drew these couples together?