February 24, 2011
Today I'd like to speak to those of you who find yourselves in the lens of societies hypocrites.
People judge you, but don't offer solutions. They point fingers, but never lend a helping hand. You are the reason for their inability to focus more exclusively on what is happening in Cosmopolitan magazine and why they can't enjoy their dinner at expensive steak houses. Yes, it's the single Black mother that is ruining their appetite and polluting America's false image of equality. You are not people who have minds, hearts or hurts; you're a blemish and in need of sterilization.
The war against the Black female has begun. Statistics are shot out like nuclear war missiles onto the unsuspecting psyches of the masses too consumed with the economy, but still eager for something to take their minds on the fact that they can't afford to drive their Hummers any longer. "It is Black women that must be held accountable. "Just look at all the babies they have--where are the fathers? Why aren't they getting married? Why are so many of them single?"
Yes, this little dance we have been doing has become tiresome and the music is way too old now.
My sisters, many of you are single because you were widowed. Some, suffered abuse, others were abandoned. Yes, there are some who have been irresponsible, but the last time I checked, it is not the fault of single Black mothers as to why the economy tanked. Black women aren't killing their children. Just two weeks ago, another white woman was arrested for shooting both of her children in the head, simply because they were a little sassy. What mother hasn't experienced that? Has anyone found out yet who killed little Cayley Anthony? Her mother is the prime suspect and has been locked up since 2008. And what about Andrea Yates in 2001, who drowned her 5 children in the bathtub. And who can forget Susan Smith in 1995 for murdering her two sons? And will we ever know who killed little Jon Benet Ramsey? Yet, it's single Black women that keep getting negative press. How convenient for society. Take away the blame from white women and make Black women the scapegoats, right? White women who kill their children...time and time again, are more valued, as opposed to the single Black women who raise children, no matter what the odds; and see them grow up to be doctors, lawyers, business owners, law enforcement officers, congressman, teachers, athletes, actors/actresses et al. Yet, the single Black woman is the scourge?
What truly rocks my spirit is the incendiary reality of a white woman, Angela Suleman deciding to have 8 babies through invetro-fertilization, while already raising 6 children as a single parent. And living with her mother and father. Yet, the media eats it up, gives her a house, a Reality show, magazine interviews, yet, the single Black mother is the problem? Let u s not forget the white celebrity single mothers, such as Sheryl Crow, Rosie O'Donnel, and the ultimate white Babymama/Babydaddy couple of the decade, Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie. And the show on MTV, 16 and pregnant highlighting white girls who willfully it seems who decide to become babymamas as a means of popularity. And Lawd, how can I forget the white girls at Gloucester High School in Massachusetts, first reported in Time magazine in 2008. I couldn't tell if they were condemning the issue or enabling the reality that yes, white girls are babymamas too. But Oh! The single Black mother must be held accountable.
I protest! And yes, if you haven't figured it out by now, I'm calling people out on their hypocrisy and giving notice to the white media, that it is not wise to cross someone who has a long memory(ME) and will remind them without apology of their bias! I'm also confronting society and even Black males who seemed to have jumped on the bandwagon to express their disdain for single Black mothers.
As a proud African American woman, I'd like to say that I'm tired of this sh*t and I'll be damned if I don't speak against the double standard. It's just incredible at the display of selective rationale.
My sisters, I've got your back. I'm defending your honor.
You are strong women. And regardless of what you go through; you do value your children more than the dominant culture for sure.
A famous philosopher named Gurda once stated: "Never Allow The Opinions of others to become your reality..."
Keep the faith and Keep your head up. Don't settle and value yourselves more. God loves you too.
You're not the problem and righteous people know this...