If You're Good At Anything--EXPECT To Be Hated!

Can we just be real today?

Many of you are in college and you're busy at work on your future careers. However, some of you are still trying to figure out what your path should be.

However, there are those rare people who just seem to be extremely driven, focused and determined to achieve success. When they do, one of the things that they discover is how often even family and friends treat them.

Let's just face it: folks really do have a crabs-in-a-barrel mentality and can't stand to see other people succeed.

Are you going through that? Or do you know someone who is?

Only YOU can make your life work. It's no one else's responsibility if you fail. You get exactly what you settle for in life.

Sometimes it's the people that some hang around that stifle their growth. Other times, it's the lack of confidence, discipline and hard work that is necessary.

I'm one of the few people in the world who actually love to brag about other people succeeding--especially if I know them. I'm a natural motivator and it just gets me hyped to see a person achieving in life.

But that's rare...however, I'd like to encourage those here who are trying to achieve something in life--hold on to your dreams, believe in yourself and don't allow the petty HATE of slackers get you down.

Just remember, Jesus was hated too--and he was perfect.

I Never BIG UP My Mixed Ancestry....

For many years, I can't tell you how many times I've had people look at me and literally say, "are you mixed?" I've been asked if I was Creole or mixed with American Indian by African Americans. Some Latinos assumed I was Puerto Rican or something. One Mexican guy insisted that I was mixed in a conversation with his wife.

But the question I ask: How can you know if someone has mixed ancestry by looking at them? Only DNA can verify that for sure...and really, for those of us who are of African descent; having this kind of background gives those within the culture a false sense of superiority--foolishly thinking it will give ingratiate them with whites.

For the record, I do have American Indian, European, and Latin in my ancestry, but I identify as African American. That's it. Other than here, I just don't talk about it. I'm completely indifferent about it. My mind is focused on social issues impacting African Americans and others of African descent. Not superficial hegemony and phenotype that in many regards, has been a curse to Black people than a blessing.

When President Obama's heritage was reported, all of a sudden, websites around the globe appeared to empower mixed race children to higher pursuits. Really? Isn't this an oxymoron, historically? It's well documented how white slave masters would educate their mullato offspring. These children were often treated better by whites. In America, it would shock people who call themselves Black (even those Blacks with only an 1/8 of African blood)--the one drop rule, but when the government changed the racial classification in 2000, allowing people to claim other racial/ethnic origins; it distorted this rule all together.

However, I'm very proud by nature and I resent anyone trying to pull the skin game when interacting or representing my community to whites.

The problem with many Black people is not that we were born of African origins; it's that so many still believe that we are inferior because of it.

I thank God every single day for blessing me to be a Black woman.

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Gay Marriage is An Oxymoron!

Like many people; I've reached my limit with the gay marriage debate and I'm just going to speak my mind. In my honest opinion, it's a farce. Why? Because for the simple fact that most gay/lesbian unions in and of itself are "hook-ups" not relationships, as is being perpetrated in the media of late. The gay community is playing the "victim" with great strategy: guilt the public into thinking that our way of life(heterosexual marriage) is wrong to their benefit. Most gay/lesbian unions are not monogamous; they are open and are not celibate at all.

As the old rap song went: "Don't believe the hype."

First of all, the gay marriage debate is a farce. Why? Because it's not really about "rights" it is and always has been about SEX. Basically, they want to feel validated to have it with whom they choose and how much they desire.

Do they really care about SS or insurance, pension plans, health care, et al? All you have to do is sign a joint tenancy agreement or leave a trust for your partner if this were about the transference of benefits and property. They contend that being allowed to marry gives them the same rights of the heterosexual married community, but honestly, anyone that understands contract law and civil unions, knows full well that all one has to do is sign a joint tenancy agreement if this were really an issue of benefits and property being transferred upon death.

And if someone dares ask you what your opinion is on gay marriage; the proper response should be: your opinion doesn't matter at all in cases of free will.

As the old rap song went: "Don't believe the hype."

The institution of marriage is being targeted by the gay and lesbian community mainly because of their opposition to the Christian definition of marriage. It's well known how many from the gay community challenge the Bible's definition of of marriage and its condemnation of their lifestyle choice. The bottom line here is that you can't produce life from gay/lesbian unions without bio-tampering (invetro-insemination). IT'S NOT NATURAL and with all due frankness; homosexuality is sexual retardation.

Wanna know what I'd ask a gay/lesbian couple? If they think it's ok to marry the same gender; would they also consider a dog to impregnate a cat?

I'd love to see the look on their faces...

That's the real truth here and I'll challenge anyone to say otherwise.

*Stand for something of FALL FOR ANYTHING.

Beyonce Is A Controlled Mannequin!

For over 15 years, the public has been inundated with images of Beyonce. When she was the lead singer in Destiny's Child; the public was being groomed to receive her when she went solo. They denied it at first, but it was clear with all of the replacements that occurred within the group. Sacrifices for the fame of this dame. Her daddy took no prisoners. When she went solo; Crazy In Love launched her solo career--to hell with Kelly and Michelle. 

Let's be real, Beyonce's meteoric rise to the top has been the talk of the industry. She has no equal--none that is allowed, but when I look into this woman's eyes; I see emptiness. 

Some people are sick of her (raising hands). If this child disappears for 10 years, I will be one happy child. The word overexposed is appropriate.

She's had a charmed life, but at what price?

However, I just don't feel Ms. Beyonce's soul. There's just nothing there--yet she claims to be a Christian. Really? And just how many souls did she lead to Christ with the song Bootylicious?

Now, the new controversy behind her song, Bow Down has everyone talking.

Some are shocked at the duplicitous message within her image and the lyrics. I'm not. 

If you're not honest about who you really are; contradictions will expose your true nature.

For a long time, I've had a dark premonition about Beyonce. I feel this is the beginning of a steep fall. 

We've seen it before...

***Special Bulletin!*** Lil Kim: The Face of SELF-HATE!

Please Read: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-2159731/Lil-Kim-shows-puffy-facial-features-altered-lips.html

When I first heard the news about Lil Kim's latest plastic surgery and then saw the photos; I went into complete shock. She looked horrible.  What is going on inside of Lil Kim? These questions just rolled through my brain and then it all came rushing back to 1995 in her first Vibe issue: I'll never forget it.  During the interview; she was talking about the guys where she lived in Brooklyn and the subject turned to dating.  Lil Kim's direct statements were that the "guys where she lived all like the light-skinned girls."  And this in a nutshell is what her facial surgeries are about.  She's trying to look like the girls that got the guys she wanted to date.  When she got the first surgery, Kim stated that she wanted to look like a "Black Pamela Sue Anderson."

All of us saw how Micheal Jackson distorted his face with plastic surgery--and destroyed himself in the end.  But it all started with a comment that he heard a fan say when he and his brothers were touring.  They were in a hotel and were trying to hide from the screaming young teen girls, when all of a sudden; they were spotted in the hotel lobby.  According to Michael in an interview later in life, he said that one of the girls said, "Is that him?  He's ugly."  And hence; this was the catalyst that changed how he saw himself forever.

And let us not forget the late Dr. Donda West who was very uncomfortable with how she looked and was talked into plastic surgery by her son, Kanye West.  It killed her.  A tragedy indeed.  But the big question has to be asked: How could such an accomplished woman feel so insecure about herself to the degree that she would not check the credentials of the surgeon who performed the procedure on her that would eventually kill her?

What does all of this say?

For most African Americans, the subject of plastic surgery is very taboo.  Many feel it's a thing for insecure white folks.  But when you see the negative impact this is beginning to have on many people in the African American community; there is a subliminal message being sent and far too many of us aren't understanding the damage of images we see daily on television programs, ad commercials, billboards, social networks, et al.  It's saying that being who you are is wrong.  Trying to look like someone else is a form of self-hate.  Basically, you have a problem with being you.

Can we just be candid?  

The ever growing images of biracial faces on commercial television/movies is sending a disturbing message, and just who is creating these images?  White folks.  And just why?  They have always attacked our image, who we are and how we view ourselves.  However, they aren't using Sambo photos any longer; their using dangerous psychology against us--and the said fact: It's working.  It's hard to compete with a tornado of images that hit us daily that worship and White beauty and forces an agenda of more white supremacy on people of color.

It's your life, do what you want to do, but loving one's self is the greatest gift that you can give to yourself.  And all I can say in regards to Lil Kim is that she really needs to look deep within herself and find the real person.  What the above picture shows is a monster; and if she's not careful, it's going to destroy her.

What Happened to Black Intellectualism?

During the 60's, we had the late Fred Hampton (leader of Chicago Chapter of The Black Panthers, H. Rap Brown, the late Stokely Carmicheal, Malcolm X, poet Sonia Sanchez, Angela Davis, poet Amiri Baraka et al.  They were the voice of Black America and oh, what powerful words they spoke.  What was spoken to us was deep and thought provoking.   It came directly from the pool halls, the bars, from the people who went to church, the beauty shop, the barber shop and the grocery store.  It challenged not only the white power structured; it dared them to deny the truth of what was said.  But a generation later, there is no Black intellect.  Just Black pundits with agendas, being paid by the white power structure to say what they think we want to hear.   And just exactly what is it that Black people think today?I'm not really clear.  Frankly, I haven't heard anything deep coming from anyone in the black community since I was a small child.

What exactly is the role of a Black intellectual? BAR editor and columnist Marsha Coleman-Adebayo says, "The Black intellectual shows her worth by contributing to the “distribution of knowledge and skills” – and by telling the truth." Link: http://blackagendareport.com/content/role-black-intellectuals

I agree.

Our people have the power to change the world.  The African American has been one of the most impressive in the world.  We went from being slaves to having the most known figures in modern history.

It is very necessary, in my opinion, for Black people to keep the intellectual lines of communication open. Knowledge is power and information is critical, but all to common these days; people seem to have tuned out. What is on your mind?  Do you know?

You will never change what you tolerate.

Apathy is death.

The Butterfly Effect

Once upon a time there was a girl who was trapped inside her cocoon.  She hid there because it was safe and no one could bother her.  Years went by and that cocoon was a constant shelter, but as the girl began to grow; the cocoon began to feel cramped and suddenly one day, it cracked.  Alarmed, the girl tried to repair the cracks, but as she would cover up one, others would appear.  Then one day, the cocoon completely shattered.  And out of the cocoon; the girl was exposed to the elements. It scared her.   She felt the cold and the heat and had to learn to weather storms and take shelter from the rain.  This began to toughen her.  She suddenly realized how confident she was becoming.  Then she began to take more risks and leave her comfort zone. She suddenly discovered all the wonders that were surrounding her and the more she traveled; she learned even more.  Her growth was continuing and one day while strolling by a river, she saw her reflection and noticed that her form had changed.  She had wings.  A slight wind blew and all at once she began to fly.  Up, up, up she went.  Higher and higher.  She giggled.  It was fun. The freedom was exhilarating and she danced in the sunlight. The rays of the sun shined on her wings and the colors became ever so bright.   She liked this feeling and as she flew higher, a voice came from the sky.  She asked who it was and when it answered, it told her that no longer did she need to hide in a cocoon, for now she was a butterfly.

Is Tavis Smiley Jealous of President Obama!

This is what started it all: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2008/04/11/tavis-smiley-quits-radio_n_96246.html

Tavis Smiley has patterned himself as the keeper of Black America. Our gatekeeper of sorts. He's been at it for over 30 years and if anyone has paid attention to him lately; it is obvious that he does not like President Obama. I noticed it during the first election race. Tavis had several people on his show summarizing the future president and it just appeared to me that he couldn't muster up a compliment of any kind. This went on until Obama won. Everyone was happy--except Tavis. Moment after moment, Tavis would criticize Obama for many things; then he and Dr. Cornell West decide to do the Poverty Tour. Now, mind you, I find it noble to champion the cause of those who are economically deprived; but both Tavis and Dr. West are very rich men. Yet, they criticize many of the policies of Obama. 

More recently, Tavis has made negative comments because in his opinion, he didn't feel that Obama is the reality of Dr. Martin Luther King's dream--just a down payment. His words. 

A footnote to this: As a child, Tavis was so good at memorizing and performing Dr. King's speeches, he got paid. This continued in college. More frankly, Tavis always saw himself as the legacy to Dr. King's Dream....then Obama came along and messed it up.  

Most of us who are over 35 got to know Travis when he was a guest host on BET in the early days. Now he has his own talk show (if you wanna call it that) on PBS. He's come a long way.

I could go on and on...but you get the point.

Reading through all of it, I just have to be real and say that in my honest opinion; Tavis is jealous of the President.

What do you think?

My Thoughts And Initiatives For 2013...

When I woke up New Years Day, I thanked the Lord for seeing another new year...then, I completed the index cards that I had wrote all of my expectations for the year.  On those cards are every single thing that I expect to either achieve or have happen within the year.

I was told to write things down--and from what I've experienced; you get much of what you expect.  The Law of Attraction is real.

Some people are just naturally pessimistic.  I'm not.  I'm a dare-devil dreamer and maybe a little arrogant in thinking that I can have whatever I desire--if I'm just willing to believe.

It was fun doing it and my attitude and energy is in alignment with my expectations.

From within; I am feeling very positive.

I'll keep the blog posted for what is accomplished.

Stay tuned.

A New Year. A New Beginning...

Each year, we make resolutions at the end of the year for what we expect for the coming New Year.  

Well, I stopped doing that a long time ago.

I make declarations now.

This year, my declaration is TAKING COMMAND.  And it literally is a call to arms to make my goals, prayers, hopes, and dreams my responsibility.  I have a pretty good understanding of what faith is at this time in my life and it hit me days before the end of 2012: that I possess the power to make those things that aren't, a reality.  It's all within me. 

I prayed over this of course. It's very important to put God first and seek his guidance.

Going with that, I'm very focused and will be approaching every single desire with the militancy and force of a General leading his troops into expected victory over anything in their path.

Day one: I took the initiative to go after something that I had lost, and now reclaim.  Also, I'm continuing with what I started in 2012 that is to be completed in 2013.

A good start and I intend to keep checking off each thing I set my mind to.

Stay tuned.